RAIN UNITED
FOOTBALL CLUB
[ Law and Order ]
I gave a dateline to close the issue. One responded to the letters after it was sent to his home. I was lenient to wait for another week. However, 2 registered mails will be address to the parents of Calvin Low. They may opt to read this blog which I have enclosed the URL.
Initially, I wanted to leave it to the arbitrate to handle this matter but after giving deep considerations to some of the friends who have came up to reveal, I have decided to change my decision. I wanted them to take care of their well being. I have been tolerant.
On a chronological note, it started in March when one Saturday evening when I was playing my football with my kids at the park, out of goodwill for Calvin, Max, Zai and Shaun came up to me and voiced out their concerned about Calvin. They wanted Calvin to stop the yelling and screaming at the team-mates which did not went down well with everyone. I told them I was aware of it and would have a word with Calvin. These were genuine friends. I openly voiced out the importance of team work on the following training and pulled Calvin aside and told him to simmer down.
Football went on but it started again. I have to stop games in between friendly matches each time trouble starts. I have explained that it took them so much effort to carry themselves well on and off the pitch. I didn't want them to lose the clean image. It will only take one mistake to break it. I was happy when "outsiders" commended on the well-being of the team which gave credits to the players themselves. I have always told them what have been commended caused the players deserved it!
On Sundays, the well established SAF warriors coaches always encouraged me to keep the team going. The CCK Community spoke well of the team too. They even requested Rain United for some demonstrations and photographing when the newly elected MP visited our training. It was to inculcate the public to play football the healthy way. SAF Warriors wanted suitable disciplined teams for sparring football and I was glad that Rain United were always noted as potentials.
On occasions when fights broke out, I have explained that it does not make sense whether to retailiate. I have to hold responsibilities. It will also ruined friends who are either on school student visas, permanent residents, young working adults, army regulars, etc. I even went further to apologise to the teams; whether right or wrong, though I was intimated as well. Put more than 3 people in a fight would be classified as gang clashed. Rain United was easily recogniseable. Even the "Joga Bonito" organisers wanted to keep in touch with the team on their activities which I have stopped writing to them. I have warned all to hold themselves all they may faced the sacked. I do not tolerate indiscipline.
Calvin called me thrice on my mobile one evening while I was on my way back from work that a fight has broken out at the basketball court. I have explained that it was not legal to play soccer on basketball courts but of course I would support my own players. He wanted "face" while the rest were okay about it. I have to tell him off.
Move over to our training sessions, Calvin continues to scream and shout at all the friends. Friends have continued to tell him off. It was on this occasion when we were training for our 7 aside tournament when he started to push himself too far. He "fucked" my 13 year son but I kept it well. He started to "barked" at his own teammates, sat in the middle of the field and later tried to put up a blatant tackle on one of the players which would have easily started a big fight had it been for an opposition team who was playing. Together with another coach in Mr Aw who has got more than 30 years of football managing and myself, we were shocked. I had to stop the game sooner. I went up to Calvin and asked him what happened. Instead of feeling apologetic, he started to blame the players that they have got "attitude" problem. I went home without my usual coffee break. I felt disappointed.
After giving myself some thoughts, I decided to invite Tony to my home in the evening. I have drafted out the chronological events involving Calvin's attitude from day one and weigh it. The several football training matches that he had played in and had got into trouble, even among teammates. Tony was to sit and be a listener. He offered to speak of Calvin's well being but it was not to be tolerated anymore. I have a 7 aside and 11 aside tournament involving my business associates to think of, ontop of the players' well-being. I was contemplating to sack him.
The next day, Calvin posted a message and wanted to have his "balls" back. He wanted $18. I was taken aback but was very willing to give him a ball in return. Afterall, I had offered to reimburse him some 2 months back when the ball went up the tree and he had said it was okay as the ball was old. He demanded money again. I did not want to challenge him on the blog but wrote an sms to him, telling him not to push it or I may have to walk up to his parents to reason things out.
The World Cup tournament came by and he had gathered friends over to his house to watch the matches. I was not bothered about his intentions to ask friends to boycott the Saturday training. It took him so long to tell his friends that I was not a qualified coach and why take him so long to say it when he was with the team? Max asked me the question over training one day. I knew Max well enough and had wanted him to sort the answers himself. They wanted to play their own football and I was okay with it. I did not want to get the "listeners" to be "blinded" as well. They were using their ears as eyes. I knew most were innocent. However, what appeases me was his intentions in wanting to cause grievenace hurt to me personally.
I spoke to some and was actually looking forward to it. However, his friends mentioned that aiyah, uncle, he "talk cock" only. I am glad that those friends understands the meaning of respect. He can "fucked" my son, but I will not allow a kid to try and mess with me. I would have been happy to turn him into a "cock". Otherwise, I would have asked his father to step into the matter. I would have put my "cock" in his mouth together with the "balls" he is asking for. I had told my family not to bring down the family surname and stood low.
I applauded those who have revealed the truth to me without asking. I gave them the respect for being themselves. ET sent me an apology message and I thought it was bold enough for him to admit his mistakes, which he offers to explain. I didn't even want to know. He even claimed he was drunk and I decided to stop the blog comments column to stop ET from creating "outer space wayang" which he had earlier claimed to predict things on "who's on the watch lists" and "what's going to happen". It was a laughing matter to me. He asked me if he can play football again and I did not turn him down, however with conditions that he looked after his well-being again. He is a smart guy who knows how to exploit matters but I wanted him to utilize his "cleverness" in a better manner just like I have been wanting to encourage him to post the Rain United blog though he was childed by comments from Calvin that he writes horribly. I applauded ET's effort in wanting to do something for the team when I read his blog. It was his good thought. I will not penalized ET for trying. However, ET is drunk in outer space!
Like I have mentioned in my previous, I have always encouraged everyone not to be implicated. Always asked when you are unclear about situations. Don't make decisions and get caught into situations. It is totally uncalled for. I am one who will most willing to challenge when it comes to integrity, ethics, discipline be it black or white. I will not hesitate to take it to the top.